The Rules Of Dating

I've finally snapped out of this mornings awful mood so i'm now ready to blog something interesting and intelligent (I do like to blow my own trumpet haha) Ok so since I've been dating S I've been thinking lots about the so called rules of dating. S is actually the first person I would say I've really dated so i'm pretty new to this dating lark. All my past relationships have either grown from friendships or have resulted from some serious flirty banter texts following a drunken night out when I was young and brimming with self confidence. But this I think is proper grown up dating. I touched upon how I met him before (internet dating) so he really is someone new in my life that i'm getting to know over time. I hate it. Like really hate it. I don't mean I hate getting to know him, not at all. That i'm massively enjoying. I mean I hate the whole uncertainty of dating. How often should you see each other? Is it ok to initiate the conversation? Blah Blah Blah So naturally I've Googled the rules of dating and there are literally hundreds and thousands of websites offering their take on the 'rules' For example, hands up if you've heard of the 3-1 rule? Nope I haven't. But apparently it's where you initiate contact up to 3 times in a row and then you leave them to contact you. If they don't initiate it with you after that or during that period then apparently they just aren't that into you. Really? Is this for real? Do women listen to this? I mean I kind of understand it, if someone likes you, you'll hear from them in time. But to put a time scale on it is abit pressurizing is it not? I'm naturally a very chatty person so 80% of the time I initiate conversation with everyone in my life. Be it S, my mum, my best friend etc etc. I don't fancy some rule making me feel uncomfortable about texting someone first. What struck me while doing my 'research' was all the conflicting advice. Some websites encourage the woman to take control. Apparently a woman who is happy to suggest meeting up, say how she feels is sexy. Other websites say there is nothing worse than a woman who does this and she should sit back and wait for the man. Gahhhh seriously, my head was just more confused after reading all this. I am still none the wiser as to what is acceptable and that majorly sucks. I think if I wasn't such an anxious person it wouldn't be so bad but as you all know, I just love to overthink. Tonight for example I was wondering if S is dating other people asides from me. Was it ok to ask him this? By asking him am I making myself look silly? What if he says yes he is? How will that make me feel? Anyway I asked him and he isn't which I think is good? I mean obviously i'm glad as I don't think I would be comfortable with him seeing other women but again do I even have the right to feel like that?? I just have no idea what's what :/